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Has motherhood become depreciated in today's world?
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I'm a fresh graduate, but I haven't started a career yet. I'm 26 weeks pregnant so I decided to start my career a few months after the baby is born and I can handle being a mother. As a first time mother I am overwhelmed but feeling a bit disappointed. I love my child and I know motherhood will be awesome, but somehow I don't see it as an achievement. It's like, I don't want to be just a mother. Unless I build a career, no one will ever appreciate me no matter how much I do as a mother and a wife. Is it me, or has motherhood become just a common thing and if everyone does it then it isn't unique anymore. Is it true that these days a woman's worth is work? I've become truly confused, all my friends have work (no flashy careers yet, they're all fresh graduates too) but it seems like they're all ahead of me. Is it because I'm the only pregnant one that I feel this way, or has motherhood become more of a bliss and less of an accomplishment?
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In my opinion the feeling you are describing that motherhood is undervalued is not a new thing. I finally got tired of the glazed look I always got when I answered the question 'what do you do?' with 'I am a stay at home mom'. Now that our children are adults and out on their own when people ask me what I do I tell them I am retired from a 25+ year career in Product Development and now work as a consultant....
This is true. I spent about 25 years raising two kids with my husband, the Product Development. And I am now a consultant, I still talk to our adults and have found I am frequently a sounding board for them both.
Don't ever let other people make you feel like being a great mom doesn't count. It does. You help to shape the future. There is a poem that is oh so true. When you are older perhaps you will see just how wise the words are:
One Hundred Years From Now
One hundred years from now
It won't matter
What kind of car I drove
What kind of house I lived in
How much money I had in the bank
Nor what my clothes looked like
BUT
The world may be a little better
Because I was important
In the life of a child.
Author: (excerpt from "Within My Power" by Forest Witcraft) -
everyone has children, it;'s hardly an achievement. having said that i want to be a stay at home mum for at least while so that i can raise my children myself, and not depend on strangers. why do you even care what people think?
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Ally it is not exactly true that everyone has children. There are some who would dearly love to be parents and find themselves unable to bear children of their own. You are correct that having a child is not an achievement in and of itself in most cases. It is how you go about raising that child and what sort of an adult that child becomes that tells the tale. Did you do a good job as a parent or not so much?
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too young to be a parent here :)
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So how exactly do people think? I know I'm not supposed to care (never did till recently anyway) I mean if being a mother is nothing special, and sometimes if your job isn't fancy enough then it's nothing special, so what is? What defines u as a pserson? What gives u value? What describes whether or not u r a success? For years I believed that ur self-worth lies in your good qualities as a person (u know, kind, caring, worthy of confidence, helpful, smart..etc.) But now it seems there are other standards that I wasn't taught at school! What are ur opinions and what do u hear from others? How DOES it work?
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Neveen I agree with you that your self-worth lies in your good qualities as a person. And, yes, there seem to be 'other' standards now. But you know something? I don't really care about those other standards. I am still the same person. I don't know if you ever truly figure out what life is all about. As a Christian I just try to live the way I know I am supposed to and let it go at that.
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i think being a good mum is a great quality that shows your success, but a lot of people fail these days. i think my mum did mazing job and i just can't imagine how she did it
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