I also am sorry to hear about your Dad, and about your poor fingernail. I know how much that hurts (I've torn off my nail like that.) About filing a nail, yes to what lindygirl said. For myself, to not mess up nail filing I have to do it in a place that is well-lit, and give it my full attention. Well, I do listen to the radio. And I have to file slowly so I don't overdo it. Filing the way Lindygirl says to do, I pretty much have to look at what I'm doing and go slowly. And not under the influence of whatever impairs my coordination , like alcohol, and too much caffeine.
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