Conditioners to bring out wave vs. relax wave

I’m curious if the nature of all hair conditioners are to bring out the natural pattern in hair. I would think smoothing the cuticle inherently makes this happen. I have a bizarre hard to deal with wave pattern in my hair that I would like more relaxed. I’ve always attacked it with a lot of conditioning products to attempt to relax it, but maybe what I need is less, or different types of conditioners. This makes sense in my brain because styling products that are high in silicones seem to make my hair smoother, yes, but also very curly and wavy beyond belief. Thoughts?